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The 29 Minute Mom

I enjoyed the opportunity to speak with Jennifer Ford Berry, Life's Expert Organizer and bestselling author, at The 29 Minute Mom Podcast. I share some of my favorite tips from Happy With Baby: Essential Relationship Advice When Partners Become Parents on communication and staying connected with littles.

We talked about it being difficult to find time to make for your partner, and I shared how we make sure that we can do so in my family. 

Give it a listen and comment below on how you make time…

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MOTHERGOOD

Parenting is never easy. There is a never-ending list of things to do, which is so overwhelming. 

Do you find yourself struggling to share your needs with your partner? Listen to my conversation with Emily @Mothergood Podcast. I share tips on effective communication to work together as a team. Making sure your needs as an individual, as a couple, and as a family is met.  

Check out Self Care & Improving Communication With Spouse After Baby and share with us how you find time for your self-care…

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Balancing New Baby In Family Life

Parenting is never easy. There is a never-ending list of things to do, which can be overwhelming. 

Do you find yourself struggling to share your needs with your partner? Listen to my conversation with Emily @Mothergood Podcast. I share tips on effective communication to work together as a team. Making sure your needs as an individual, as a couple, and as a family is met.  

Check out Self Care & Improving Communication With Spouse After Baby and share with us how you find time for your self-car…

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The Best 6 Ways to Find Your Purpose After Becoming A First-Time Mother

I hear from mothers all the time about succumbing to the pressure of becoming a supermom to the point that they end up losing their identity in the process. We are busy giving our children the utmost care, we worry whether we are doing a good job, doubt ourselves and the choices we make and all of our focus ends up revolving around what we're doing instead of how we’re feeling and the relationships we’re building.

Remember, your baby isn’t the absolute center of your world, but rather a part of…

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Pandemic Silver Lining: How Social Distancing Re-invented Community

Are pandemic silver linings a thing? 

There has been very little about this last year that has been easy.

If I look for the silver linings I would have to say how it has simplified things in my life. 

When you rarely leave the house, your world, and what you do in it, becomes artificially small. I haven’t taken my kids to school and all of their extracurricular activities have decreased or have even straight up disappeared.

Given how my world, our worlds, have shrunk, I think the most diffic…

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Healthy Post-natal Body Podcast Appearance

I had a great opportunity to speak with Peter Lap, Post-natal Expert at the Healthy Post-natal Body Podcast  and we discussed how staying happy after having a baby, is much easier said, than done.

We talked about the difference between expectations and reality, feelings of "grief" for your old life, how each parent has their own learning curve and negotiating your new roles as parents while simultaneously honoring the importance of your relationship.

While Peter and much of his audience is ba…

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Why I am Obsessed With Body Communication and Why You Should Be Too.

The other day, I had a meltdown about not getting to leave the house.

Yes, meltdown, full on crying, face wet, red eyes, dripping tears. In the midst of it all I realized my body was communicating on high and had been for a while. 

The only problem is I had not been listening. 

I had been too busy with daily chores, getting my kiddos through distance learning, tending to my marriage and nurturing my growing business. 

It seems as though there aren’t any breaks in my life at the moment. 

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Confessions of a Wannabe Supermom Podcast Appearance

I recently had the opportunity to chat with Kristen Wheeler at The Supermom Wannabe Podcast about all the things no one told us before entering new motherhood.

The conversation started with why I gave up trying to be a Supermom and opted to be Batmom (check out the Chapter 7 in my book for the full explanation).

Kristen was so easy to talk to and I love the way she normalizes how difficult it is to be a parent. Like me, she loves finding the humor in life, black coffee and dry shampoo.   

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24 Do's and Don'ts When it Comes to Communication

I have to admit, the desire to communicate doesn’t always come easy, especially when feelings and emotions get mixed in.  

One thing I am certain of though…

“communication is key”.

This phrase is on repeat in my personal life, in my professional life and in my work with my clients.

It is so easy to say, it rolls right off my tongue, and yet it isn’t always easy to live by. 

When I sit down with individuals or couples in my office, these are some of the common tips I recommend as we work tow…

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Questions to Ask Yourself and How The Answers Will Lead to Self-Nourishment

Sometimes I pick a word of the year.

The word I pick is a word that I will call on to keep me grounded and focused.

 

This year my word is NOURISH.

I’ve needed this word a lot these first couple of weeks of 2021. 

The reality is, I know deep down that this year isn't the time for a major overhaul. 

But what I know I need to do is to gradually make small changes to foreground the things that are important to me.  

 

So here is how I will use NOURISH:

I want to make sure I am NOURISHING m…

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Completing a DIY Project with Your Partner is Easier Than You Think

We are going on ten months, friends. Ten months of this pandemic affecting our daily lives.

I know we all want this to end. I know that time feels fast and slow, all at once. I also know that we are resilient, full of ingenuity and determination. If we weren’t, our species may have very well gone extinct some time ago. 

I think masks are going to be a part of our lives for quite some time. I am dreaming  of a time when heading out for a Friday night drink with my love, meetups with our friends…

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Small Changes for Big Shifts

Happy New Year!

I cannot believe it’s 2021.

I always think of the new year with such newness. There is always a push to make changes and to be a new you! 

Every year, I set out with what goals I want to accomplish and last year was no different. I had high hopes, and to say I experienced disappointment is an understatement. Regardless of the challenges, I also received unexpected benefits. I gained perspective. I had an abundance of time with my family. All of this came with an opportunity to…

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Creating in the Midst of Chaos: My Book Baby has a Due Date

Times have been so heavy and hard and there are days I feel like I can’t do any of it. There are days when I don’t want to do any of it. And if I’m being honest, I have imagined hiding and crying under my blanket, with the hope that my kids won’t find me. 

My initial instinct is to wallow in the depths of the heaviness. But, when I give into that impulse, I become stuck. I end up wasting time worrying about feeling bad, sad or angry. 

What really feels supportive for me is allowing myself the …

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The Forever Question Review

Have you been thinking about having another baby and not sure if you should take the leap?


After having our son, I clearly remember being totally unsure if we should “risk” having another.  He was pretty easy. He started sleeping through the night at 11 months, he ate his vegetables, he was mild mannered and super social so he actually helped my husband and I meet new friends and our neighbors.  He made us laugh and brought a lot of joy to our lives.  And laughing is always good.

You can’t get…

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Raising Resilient Kids

Doesn’t it seem like every time you log on to the internet, whether it be Facebook, Pinterest, Twitter, whatever…there is always something someone is telling you what you need to do with your children.  There’s a technique for handling any situation.  A research study supporting this or that philosophy. 

And a recent one that I’ve encountered many times--and I’m sure you have too--is teaching resiliency to our kids.

“Shoot,” you think! “I’m just trying to raise  happy, healthy, and well-a…

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I am ENOUGH: Permission to Ease Up on the Busy-ness & Enjoy What Matters

I’m not perfect….but, I am enough.

It seems like a day doesn’t pass--shoot, who am I kidding--an hour doesn’t pass that I don’t think about all the things I HAVE to do.  I am such a busy person.  I have two kids, a husband, my own business, all of which need nurturing and demand my undivided attention.  I have parents and in-laws and friends to stay connected with and support with my love and friendship.   I have to-do lists and goals and…and…and….  Right?  We all do.  I’m not unique in all…

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How to Talk to a Mom that is Struggling

I hear this all too often.  A struggling mother will say that she feels misunderstood or that she's failing.  A partner, family member, or friend says the wrong thing with the best intentions or is unsure of what to say at all.  Do you want to know how to support a struggling mom?

 Check out this video to hear my take on it.  (Audio transcript is below.)

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I've been getting a lot of the same question over and over again, this week es…

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Find Your Tribe: How to Build Your Parenting Community

Is new motherhood not looking or feeling the way you thought it would? 

If you find yourself asking questions like: How in the world do other moms get things done?  Why is this so hard for me?  Am I doing it all wrong?  I love my baby, but why do I feel so alone? 

It’s no secret that having a baby changes everything—and not just our physical bodies! 

Having a baby can change our relationship to ourselves, our partners, our friends, our work, our sense of time and priorities. 

The solutio…

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The Perfect Father's Day Gift

Happy Father’s Day!

Yes, I’m talking to you.

I just wanted you to know that we do notice all the things you do.  We might not always say thank you or acknowledge your support. Your encouragement.  Your fun and crazy ways.  But we do appreciate you.  

We know that you make this parenting job easier.  

We know that our children adore you.  We know that your ways are different, but that’s perfectly alright because no 2 people are alike and our children will encounter all sort of differences…

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Post Adoption Depression

Maternal Mental Health Awareness month (May) is over now, but I have another wonderful guest blogpost from my amazing intern, Elizabeth DeFazio.  Not only is she a mom, partner, and Marriage and Family Therapist Intern, but she also has a unique background of being a RN, so her perspective is invaluable. 

Guest Blog By: Elizabeth DeFazio, RN, MFT Intern

As Maternal Mental Health Awareness month ends we are reminded of the toll pregnancy and childbirth can take on a woman and her family. So…

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Why Aren't We Talking About It? Impact Of Having Kids On Your Relationship

Guest blog by Anna Osborn, licensed psychotherapist and relationship specialist


With May being Maternal Mental Wellness month, I decided to share a big secret with all of you.  One that folks aren’t talking about enough.  One that we need to share with each other.  One that we need to have open dialogue about.  One that needs to be shouted from the rooftop so that others aren’t hiding in shame and fear.

Having kids is hard on your relationship!  What? 


I know you’re thinking, well of cour…

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New Mama Sanity Savers: Three Things I Wish I'd Known Before Baby Moved In.

May is Maternal Mental Health awareness month. At HappyWithBaby.com we know it isn't always easy being a parent. But with support, encouragement, and education things can be easier. We are so exciting to be collaborating with some excellent clinicians, sharing some amazing articles, that offer just those things.

Guest Blog by: Shana Averbach, LMFT

"I love the idea of knowledge as power. When I was pregnant with my now 7-month-old son, I thrived on learning the functions of my symptoms. Nau…

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Mommy Monday with Michelle and Rachel

Week 2 of our momma interviews.  this week I want to share two of them.  What I love about these moms is that they had opposite exercise.  The point I want to note is that they are both amazing mommas.  

We all have different experiences and I think it is important to embrace our differences.  

It's what makes us unique!

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Being a Human Mom is Tough!

Guest blog by: Mercedes Samudio, LCSW

When I think of maternal mental health, I think of more than just mental illness and postpartum depression. I think of the stereotypical super mom who is trying to do it all and ends up neglecting herself. I think of the pressures places on mothers in our world and how impossible those expectations are for mothers to reach. And I think, how can we support the notion that mothers are humans who have strengths and weaknesses and can’t do everything?

One …

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Managing Big Emotions

May is Maternal Mental Health awareness month. At HappyWithBaby.com we know it isn't always easy being a parent. But with support, encouragement, and education things can be easier. We are so exciting to be collaborating with some excellent clinicians, sharing some amazing articles, that offer just those things.

Guest Blog by Bridget Bertrand, Psychotherapist, LMFT 83020

Emotions: the invisible and yet powerful experiences we all have. What is an emotion? Merriam-Webster calls it an “...af…

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May is Maternal Mental Health Awareness Month

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I distinctly remember being told (more times than I can count) that everything would change when I had a baby.

WHOA…they weren’t kidding!!!

I’ve gotten a lot of gifts from being a mom. And one of them is that I finally figured out what I wanted to be when I grow up. 

Don’t get me wrong I was already a therapist, and had wanted to be a therapist since as long as I could remember. 

But when I became a mother, I finally figured out what direction my practice would go.  I finally figured out…

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“I’m SO busy!” - How to Manage Your Schedule in Parenthood –Part 1-

Being a parent takes us to a whole new level of busy, because now we are actually responsible for someone else’s life. 

I talk with parents all the time about how to best manage their schedules.  In Part 1 of this 3 part series (3 parts as I post this, it could be more by the time I’m done with this), I discuss picking your priorities that will positively impact your family.

Take a listen:

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11 Things I've Learned From Having Children

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Ways to Show Love to Your Partner

Valentine’s Day is a chocolate candy, and florist’s dream day, but it’s really about the heart and the thought.  It is making sure your loved one’s know you care and love them.  If it takes a holiday to get you to stop, that is fine.  However, it is MORE important to make sure that you take the time to tell your partner, your children, your parents, whoever it is, how you feel about them all year long!

Believe me I know how hard it is to make special time to do the “Valentines Day” things. …

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3 Ways to Increase Your Intimacy

In this edition of Happy with Baby's “3 Tips in 3 Minutes,” we're talking about three ways to increase your intimacy.

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As parents of young children, it can be particularly challenging to find time to make that intimate connection with your partner.  We would love to hear from you about what you your partner do to make sure that your relationship stays strong. Please share in the comments below!

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3 Tips in 3 Minutes ~ 3 Ways to Increase Communication

In this edition of Happy with Baby's “3 Tips in 3 Minutes,” we're talking about three ways to increase communication.

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We’d love to hear from you about your communication with your partner. Please share your great connection tips below.

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3 Tips In 3 Minutes ~ Coping With The In Laws

In this edition of Happy with Baby's “3 Tips in 3 Minutes,” we're talking about three ways to cope with your in-laws.

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We would love to hear from you about what you do when you have particularly challenging family members, please share your great tips in the comments below.

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When it’s noT... the most wonderful time of the year

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3 Tips in 3 Minutes ~ Family Traditions

In this edition of Happy with Baby's “3 Tips in 3 Minutes,” we're talking about three ways to create family traditions.

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Please share in the comments below what you are doing to create new family traditions.

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3 Tips in 3 Minutes ~ Supporting Dads

As promised, here’s Happy with Baby's “3 Tips in 3 Minutes,” where we're talking about three ways to support Dad when baby comes home.

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Please share in the comments below what you found most helpful as a new Dad, or how you support the new Dads in your life.

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3 Tips in 3 Minutes” ~ Three Ways To Support Mom When Baby Comes Home

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3 Tips in 3 Minutes” ~ Three Date Night Ideas

In this first edition of Happy with Baby's “3 Tips in 3 Minutes,” we're talking about three date night ideas.

 

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Please share in the comments below your favorite date night ideas.

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A Lesson In Living In The Moment


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Oh my goodness!

It’s been a long time since I’ve experienced the “back-to-school” hustle and bustle. If you’re on my email list then know that my oldest child just started kindergarten. It’s only been four weeks, so we’re still getting used to the routine of making school lunches, getting to bed on time, drop-off/pick-up, and doing the dreadful homework! Yikes, I don’t remember doing homework in kindergarten 

Last Friday, after what seemed to be an unusually long week, my husband (who’s…

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How getting a pedicure can make you a better parent!

What is it about becoming a parent that all of sudden we think we shouldn’t get to do things for ourselves?  This can be especially true for moms...right? 

 

So many times we compare ourselves to other people, to other mothers…enter in Facebook, Instagram, Pinterest, etc. This creates feelings of inadequacy. This can be because we feel bad for not being at home with our children, or we feel bad for not “working.”   I think we can often get so caught up in how to do things right, that we ge…

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I am grateful...

 

My plan for this shortened week has me doing a lot of things in a short amount of time. One of those things is editing this blog post.

As anyone with small children knows (I suppose anyone with children of any age knows), the “best­ laid plans of mice and men oft go astray”.

First, my son woke up 3 times throughout the night with what seemed to be growing pains in his legs, and so I ended up rubbing his legs and soothing him back to sleep ­ 3 times. Then of course my daughter woke up for …

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Resolutions for your family

With the New Year comes lots of resolution making and breaking.  Often people forget these resolutions by the time February arrives. So what can you do to make them last?  Since the point of this blog is family and being happy with baby I want to focus on resolutions that emphasize creating a healthy and happier family.

1)            To take care of yourself.  Remember, it is very hard to take care of your family if you are being neglected.  Maybe one of your resolutions could be to go to b…

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“Managing” time for yourself!

You’re constantly on the go…going to appointments, going to work, getting groceries,  taking your child to day care. The list goes on and on. What we often forget in our never-ending to-do list is that one of the best ways to manage the stress in our daily lives is to take time out for self-care.

Part of the difficulty with finding this balance as a parent is the enormous amount of tasks that we have to do.  It can become very overwhelming.

First off, you need to be able to identify what y…

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Connecting with your partner after baby

Until I had a child myself, I did not value “date night”.  I find this to be an important tip that seems rather simple, but often is overlooked as children enter into your relationship.  It may not look the same as it once did.  However, making sure that you can get a couple of hours a week to spend time with your partner is ideal.  This will give you time to connect, which is key to working through the challenging times.  If you are able to connect with your partner in a positive way the th…

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Tips for Positive Interactions with Your Partner

If you have a child you are no stranger to finding that making time with your partner can be almost impossible at times!  It can be so hard to find time to talk to each other let alone trying to connect on a deeper level.

Many couples struggle during the first year of their baby’s life to maintain their groove with each other.  This can lead to dissatisfaction with the relationship.

There are steps can you make to keep your relationship with you partner strong, and even to make it stronger…

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Addressing conflicts


When you have a baby there are countless things to worry about. What type of laundry soap should you use for their clothing?  What diapers are best for the baby? The worries even extend to should the baby be sent to daycare or should one of us stay home? Then there is the ever-present issue of breastfeeding versus formula. The questions are endless and the answers are many, but one important thing that often gets forgotten in the pursuit of raising a happy child is the relationship with your…

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Just Between Moms: Educational and Support Group

Is the summer heat stressing you out?

Do you seem to have less patience for you partner?

YOU ARE NOT ALONE!

Having children often leads to a higher level of dissatisfaction in your relationship. The heat does not help, along with the stressors of work, childcare, housework, planning vacation, etc, etc, etc.

That’s why this months Just Between Moms Educational and Support Group we will be discussing:

- tips for understanding your partner
- ways for getting the emotional and practical supp…

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