How Are You, Really?
A 5-minute check-in for parents who are doing a lot.
Take a few minutes to check in with yourself. There are no right or wrong answers, just an opportunity to reflect on how you're doing.
Name:
Child Ages:
Choose the answer that feels most true for you right now.
How to Score
For each statement, choose:
Your Check-In
1. I feel like even one more small thing could push me past my limit.
2. My mind is racing even when my body finally gets to rest.
3. My partner and I feel more like roommates or coworkers than a team.
4. We argue about the same two or three things on repeat.
5. I can't remember the last time I did something just for me.
6. I feel guilty when I want space from my kids or from being a parent.
7. When things get hard, I wish I had more people I could genuinely lean on.
8. I feel like I'm the only one holding everything together.
Your Results
What Your Score May Reflect
You may have some good support and resilience to build on.
You may be feeling stretched thin.
You may be carrying significant emotional or relationship strain.
You may be feeling deeply overwhelmed and could benefit from additional support.
Your score is not a diagnosis. It's simply a starting point for reflection.
Which Feels Most Like You?
Your overall score is only one piece of the picture. Read through the descriptions below and choose the one that feels most like where you are right now.
Running on Empty
Your answers suggest you've been carrying a lot emotionally. You may feel like you're constantly "on" and have little room left for yourself.
A good next step: Individual counseling focused on stress, overwhelm, and feeling more like yourself again.
Carrying Too Much Alone
You may be carrying a heavy mental load… keeping track of the details, responsibilities, and needs of everyone around you. You may wish you had more help, support, or space to put some of that weight down.
A good next step: Individual support focused on boundaries, asking for help, managing the mental load, and creating more balance.
Growing Apart, Not Broken
You and your partner may still be on the same team, but parenting may have made it harder to feel connected.
A good next step: Couples counseling to work on communication, connection, and the patterns that keep repeating.
Who Even Am I Now?
Somewhere between parenting, relationships, and everything on your plate, you may have lost touch with yourself.
Noticing that isn't selfish. It's a place to begin.
A good next step: Individual support focused on reconnecting with yourself and navigating life as a parent.
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If Nothing Feels Like A Perfect Match…
That's okay. You don't have to fit neatly into one category.
You may be carrying a combination of things. You don’t have to wait until things get harder to reach out for support.
You don't have to wait until things get harder to reach out for support.
Or, if you'd like to talk things through:
Want to talk about what you're experiencing?
If your results gave you something to think about, you can schedule a free consultation to talk through what's going on and explore what kind of support might be right for you.
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IMPORTANT
This check-in is designed for reflection and education. It is not a clinical screening, diagnosis, or substitute for professional care.
How Are You, Really?
Parenthood can be wonderful, exhausting, and overwhelming all at once. Take a few minutes to check in with yourself and get a better sense of what kind of support might be helpful for you.
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You can connect directly with support and resources specifically for what you're going through.
This check-in is not a diagnosis or a substitute for professional care.